It costs nothing to be kind, and yet it could mean everything.
Definition : Warm Human (n.) 1. Someone who walks through the world with equal measures of strength and kindness. 2. Someone whose presence feels like a hug. 3. Someone who chooses to see the best in people. 4. An imperfect, very human, person trying their best to be a good soul. 5. You.
You see it, but most of all you feel it when you meet a Warm Human. They have a strength and presence about them, but at the same time they have a kindness in their eyes, or a smile that might come easy. Whatever it is, they seem to evoke an effortless sense of warmth and acceptance that feels like a hug.
Warm Humans have this amazing way of making you feel seen, and better yet...as possibly the best version of yourself. It’s as if your value and worth are so apparent it goes without question in their eyes. Maybe it is the direct eye contact, or the way they are simply open, even delighted, to learn who you are and what you are all fired up about in life. …without their own agenda anywhere in sight.
Happy, content, yet perhaps not overly perky. You can tell they dwell more often where positivity lives. A deliberate choice in perspective...choosing to see the best in all people and all things.
Warm Humans embody equal measures of self-confidence and humbleness. It is the type of strength that comes from embracing reality…the imperfections and utter humanness of life, and maybe most importantly, from recognizing their gratitude for the journey. They are most definitely strong, have clear boundaries, and have learned to blame no one else for where they are in life. They radiate grace and self-respect, toward both themselves and everyone else…without exception.
Honestly, it all kind of boils down to this: Just be a good human, man.
Do the right thing when no one is looking.
Be kind and respectful to all beings. It's not a matter of whether you think someone "deserves" to be treated that way (I believe all beings deserve respect), but regardless, do it because it’s who YOU are, it is how you walk through the world.
Have compassion. Entertain the compassionate thoughts more than anything else. If you MUST assume, assume people are coming from a good place, and have good intentions. Guessing what people think is like writing fiction - so if you are going to write a story you might as well write something that makes you feel peaceful inside. The good news is that people usually ARE coming from a good place.
It is possible to be both strong AND kind. We need that. The world needs that.
Being strong means taking care of yourself and having boundaries.
Speak straight to others without tearing them down, and express yourself respectfully.
Let go of needing to make the world happy.
If a person makes a mistake you have 3 choices: 1. Help them resolve it. 2. Help them feel better about it, or 3. Make them laugh about it. That's it. We are human. We don't need to make people feel worse, rub it in or use the opportunity to make a point. That's just being a jerk.
Warm humans meet people without an agenda of how that person should live their life. All of us are all on the journey we are supposed to be on. It's arrogant to believe you know better than another person about how they should live their life. You empower people by believing in them. Trusting that they possess the wisdom to figure things out, find their way, ask for help and make it.
Kindness isn't weakness.
Authentic power isn't about forcing, dominating or controlling (hint! those last 3 things are the costumeweakness wears as a disguise).
Be present with people. When you are in front of someone BE there. See them. Get fascinated.
Life is finite. There is an end. You get to choose how you want to spend these precious minutes you have on Earth.
Have a little fun with growth and change. It may be hard sometimes but you don't need to take it so seriously all of the time. As we fumble our way towards ecstasy, it can actually be rather funny. It's okay to laugh at yourself.
Take care of yourself, be good and gentle and kind with yourself.
Forgive yourself, and when you know better, do better.
Let go of toxic shit. Whether that's people, relationships, jobs, thought patterns, negativity, etc.
...and on that note: good people swear. Some good people don't, but a lot of good people do...just sayin'
Be brave. Just try. Simply begin from wherever you are with whatever you have.
Character is how you treat people who can do nothing for you.